Adonis Glover Blog Post 1

Attractive or not, Cheating’s still wrong.

For a couple, you fall in love and then eventually get married. It is a possibility that the two of you are successful in life: have the dream job and enough money, married the person you want to be with for the rest of your life, have the house or mansion of your dreams. And maybe you created a family with kids and also include the pets as well. After the honeymoon phase, reality kicks itself back in for everyone getting back to their “normal” routine but with the additional responsibilities. For couples, it can be a bit difficult to handle those additional responsibilities on top of the regular ones (i.e. watching the young kids, cleaning the house, etc). With those responsibilities that may either interfere or even stress one or both individuals out, one may suggest outside help. Some may prefer family members outside the household, such as grandparents but others may hire professional help who has the experience.

If they took the latter route, it may be the best solution. But the daring question is: what if that professional home helper, regardless if that person is a nanny, maid, or butler, you just hired is so attractive, so beautiful or handsome to the point that it may risk your marriage?

Here’s an example, let’s just say you hired a nanny to watch your children whenever either one or both of you have professional responsibilities that need to attend to. Now, normally, nannies, as we have seen in the media: TV shows and movies, for example, are stereotypically, older females, more commonly in the age of grandmothers. What if the nanny is a younger female, her age ranged in the upper twenties or low thirties, that may have the beautiful looks, best body, and possible the perfect personality? This website might bring some light to the perspective.

In a male’s perspective, it may be impossible to avoid as that could cause the hormones “raging”, especially if the female has nice assets, unless he is very loyal to his wife. Same thing applies if the wife just happens to have hired an attractive male pool cleaner, who may have the chiseled face, strong physique and a personality that may “turn her on”. An urge to cheat is still a possibility that shouldn’t be ignored as it’s in our nature to be attracted to people that are visually pleasing.

It may be stereotypical, but I think it is impossible to avoid. The person may be attractive but that said person could also be highly professional. Every couple is different: some may be loyal and stay true as lovers, while others may accept temptation, regardless if the marriage is a risk or not.  According to this New York Post article, studies have shown that the risk of marriage dissolution is highest where either wives or husbands encounter an abundance of spousal alternatives, which means ideas of getting divorce are bound to happen if one or both had an opportunity to cheat. Another article from Harper’s Bazaar noticed that insecurity could be the factor whenever the situation occurs, it is sending a huge red flag in a marriage. 

This situation does not apply to only heterosexual couples. It can happen to couples in the LGBT community as well and similar reasons above can still apply to those in that community. However those couples who are in open relationships and allow polygamy in their relationships is a story for another time.

I think it is best for couples who have very good judgement in character, hired the professionals whom have the experience of handling household responsibilities, regardless if that person is attractive or not. They should be worried about their significant other instead of their desires, and temptations. Keeping hormones in check and stopping thoughts of insecurity are the best way for making marriages stay in tact. In fact, it is also the best idea to avoid divorces as much as possible.